...to our children

To our children, marriage is an model of a loving relationship, and something to aspire to as adults, whether they are gay or straight.

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My Two Daughters

Protect Maine Equality highlights a father to make its case for establishing equal access to marriage regardless of sexual orientation.

A Conservative’s Road to Same-Sex Marriage Advocacy

The New York Times profiles former United States Solicitor General and prominent Republican attorney Theodore Olson, who is working to lay out a strong case for why conservatives and the U.S. Supreme Court should back marriage equality.

Theodore B. Olson’s office is a testament to his iconic status in the conservative legal movement…But in a war room down the hall, where Mr. Olson is preparing for what he believes could be the most important case of his career, the binders stuffed with briefs, case law and notes offer a different take on a man many liberals love to hate. They are filled with arguments Mr. Olson hopes will lead to a Supreme Court decision with the potential to reshape the legal and social landscape along the lines of cases like Brown v. Board of Education and Roe v. Wade: the legalization of same-sex marriage nationwide.

The lawsuit comes as societal views on same-sex marriage are rapidly evolving. Six states have now authorized gay couples to marry, and the politics of the issue increasingly defy convention. President Obama, for example, has said he opposes same-sex marriage, while former Vice President Dick Cheney, whose daughter is a lesbian, supports it.

Even so, Mr. Olson’s involvement stands out. As one of the leading Supreme Court advocates of his generation, he commands wide respect in the legal community, and his views carry considerable weight with the justices, according to Steven G. Calabresi, a law professor at Northwestern University and a leader with Mr. Olson in the Federalist Society, a hothouse for conservative legal theory.

A Federal Judge has set a date for Olson’s case to go to trial in January, leaving open the door for equal access to marriage for all Americans, regardless of sexual orientation.

Boies Addesses Marriage Equality Opposition

David Boies, the attorney who is part of a bi-partisan effort to overturn California’s ban on same-sex marriage, writes an excellent counter-offensive to opponents of marriage equality in the Wall Street Journal.

The occasional suggestion that marriages between people of different sexes may somehow be threatened by marriages of people of the same sex does not withstand discussion. It is difficult to the point of impossibility to envision two love-struck heterosexuals contemplating marriage to decide against it because gays and lesbians also have the right to marry; it is equally hard to envision a couple whose marriage is troubled basing the decision of whether to divorce on whether their gay neighbors are married or living in a domestic partnership. And even if depriving lesbians of the right to marry each other could force them into marrying someone they do not love but who happens to be of the opposite sex, it is impossible to see how that could be thought to be as likely to lead to a stable, loving relationship as a marriage to the person they do love.

Moreover, there is no longer any credible contention that depriving gays and lesbians of basic rights will cause them to change their sexual orientation. Even if there was, the attempt would be constitutionally defective. But, in fact, the sexual orientation of gays and lesbians is as much a God-given characteristic as the color of their skin or the sexual orientation of their straight brothers and sisters. It is also a condition that, like race, has historically been subject to abusive and often violent discrimination. It is precisely where a minority’s basic human rights are abridged that our Constitution’s promise of due process and equal protection is most vital.

It is time to end discrimination against gays and lesbians and allow marriage rights for all.

Family Values for All

Republican Jesse Levey is the son of two Lesbian mothers, and knows about strong family values.  That is why he supports marriage equality.

“The conservative argument for family values is that we should be in married couples; I agree,” Levey says. “If we want to see children raised by married couples, then we should let gay people get married.”

A Republican lobbying for same-sex marriages might seem odd, but Levey says he embraces the conservative notion of individual freedom. He became a Republican at 12. Once, he sought permission for his middle school class to listen to Rush Limbaugh (he says he no longer listens to Limbaugh).

“When you grow up with Lesbian mothers, you can’t get your ears pierced to rebel,” he says. “I became a Republican.”

Today, Levey sees his parents’ choice not as an expression of rebellion, but as a desire for something that’s actually a conservative virtue — a loving family.

“I believe in family values, but family is about taking care of your children and respecting one another,” he says. “It doesn’t matter what your sexual orientation is.”

It doesn’t matter whether you are Republican or Democrat, if you believe in family values, then you should believe those values should apply to all families.

Marriage Equality and the Children

In a letter to the Waterton Daily Times, Tammy Hall of Carthage rebuts the assertion that allowing gay and lesbian couples to marry will somehow harm the children of opposite-sex couples.

This does not damage our children or families. It strengthens them by teaching our children humanity and compassion for the human condition.

You will, of course, believe as you wish. But please do not let unfounded fear stand in the way of another human being’s basic human rights. If your heterosexual children are exposed to homosexual couples, they will not suddenly become homosexual. They will simply see the love and go about their lives. That is what children do.

If homosexual couples express love, commitment, honor and respect in a ceremony which provides a piece of paper with rights attached, nothing is taken from the heterosexual marriage. It will still exist as an expression of love and commitment.

The debate over same-sex marriage across the nation does, in many ways, send the message to the children that it is okay to discriminate against others’ and their love, and sends the wrond message to children who may one day grow up to be gay or lesbian.